Is Your Spouse Cheating on You?

Unless your spouse is a 'smart', careful cheater, there are always tell-tale signs that he or she is being unfaithful to you. Warning signs of cheating spouses manifest themselves through changes in your spouse's behavior and routine. These changes may be either subtle or obvious and when confronted, your spouse may either deny or dismiss it but never have an explanation for it. These could be hints or warning signs of cheating spouses.

However, changes in behavior are not always warning signs of cheating spouses, so be careful about jumping to conclusions. If your spouse has not been acting 'normal' lately, it could be several things: sickness, stress caused by work, problems with money your spouse doesn't want to discuss or maybe even tame activities he or she is too embarrassed to tell you, at least for now. Remember Richard Gere's affair with ballroom dancing in 'Shall We Dance'?

But if your spouse has no other obvious reason for a change in behavior, cheating may be the cause. How do you tell? Here are some of the most common warning signs of cheating spouses.

One of the warning signs of cheating spouses is being too nice, all of a sudden. This is a behavior change that cheating spouses often do to assuage their feelings of guilt. By being extra nice, affectionate and attentive, they are trying to make up for the fact that they are cheating on you. It lessens the sense of culpability in a way, because you're not being taken for granted or abandoned. It may also be a strategy to make you think everything's okay. This sudden change is a warning signs of cheating spouses and you must recognize it.

Being too hard on you. This is another tricky warning signs of cheating spouses. Spouses who cheat on their husbands or wives develop a quick temper for no reason. Suddenly, tiny mistakes that they used to overlook or laugh off become big issues. They react negatively on everything you or your children do -- something they never did before.

Being bored about everything. They find you boring, they find your house boring, they find your old friends boring, and they find everything boring. Suddenly, they prefer to do things alone or with their buddies. They exclude their families from their plans and if you ask for more information or if you could join, they become cagey and encourage you to go out on your own or with your friends.

Acting distant. Intimacy is fading or just plain gone. There's a sudden loss of sexual interest and appetite and you get rejected for your advances more often for no reason. Be alarmed if spouses are suddenly acting distant as this maybe a warning signs of cheating spouses.

Change in grooming habits, this is sometimes a trace or warnings signs of cheating spouses. They become more careful with their looks, take more baths, put on new colognes or perfumes, buy new wardrobe. They may even suddenly get the urge to join health clubs and spend more money on cosmetics and skin care products.

Unexplained absence or time away. Unless the highway going to your house has been undergoing some serious repair, your spouse should have no reason to take hours to come home. And if they do come home late, they often try to explain it with some vague story. They may also call to tell you they're doing overtime again, although for some reason, the extra hours don't show up on their paycheck. They begin consuming more gas for the car and have unexplained mileage. This is a very serious warning signs of cheating spouses that you must recognize.

Also included in the warning signs of cheating spouses is unexplained spending. There are receipts for things they can't account for, unexplained charges appear on credit card bills and more spending on things you never see.

Unexplained phone calls are also another warning signs of cheating spouses. Someone (a man or a woman) you don't know calls your home and doesn't identify themselves (on a touch tone phone, find out who this is by punching *69). Your spouse will talk in whispers over the phone and suddenly hang up when you appear. You're not allowed to answer a ringing phone or strange phone numbers begin appearing repetitively on the phone bill or even on the mobile phone statement. Cheating spouses will turn off their mobile phones often, making it difficult for you to reach them.